Bewafa reveals how men often gaslight their wives
By Fatima Shaheen Niazi
Episode 5: In the last episode, Aahan (Ali Rehman Khan) broke his ‘relationship’ with Shireen because he was overburdened with guilt. However, before he did that, he also admitted how attached he is to his colleague – hence, in the eyes of anyone who is in a relationship, this act alone is considered an emotional affair.
Unfortunately, most men don’t think in those lines and that’s the exact point Bewafa is trying to highlight.
The episode picks up with Shireen’s brother entering Aahan’s house and confrontingKinza (Naveen Waqar). Upon her request, he takes her back to his house so she may have a word with Shireen (Ushna Shah).The enraged wife who assumes her husband is in the midst of an extramarital affairs, begins to insult Shireen’s entire family. She not only slaps her, but also accuses Shireen’s father of pawning his daughter off to married men for money.
Naturally, Shireen’s pop is stunned and resorts to a very ‘Pakistani’ style of expressing his emotions – he forbids Shireen from ever stepping out of the house. Surprisingly, instead of feeling ashamed or heartbroken, Shireen is overpowered by the wrath of vengeance. She vows to avenge the slap and conspires to gain Aahan sympathy in any way possible.
Getting into vamp mode, Shireen calls Aahan and informs him of Kinza’s unwanted visit. She not only pretends to bawl, but also adds in a few lines on how Aahan’s happiness is all she cares about. Well, the fake call does its job and Aahan’s rushes home to fight with his wife.
At this point, the poor wife is convincedAahan is a cheater. But what does Aahan do? He pretends there was no relationship between him and Shireen and that Kinza is simply a suspicious madwoman. If the gaslighting wasn’t enough, he also raises his hand on Kinza and then blames HER for the act.
Now, we don’t think Aahan or any other man for that matter is a horrible human being. But we do appreciate how Bewafasheds light on men who may be good husbands, but can also end up mentally and emotionally torturing their wives in order to avoid owning up to their own mistakes. Most importantly, the TV serial points out how people living under a cloud of denial tend to partake in the blame game.
Moving on, after Aahan slaps Kinza, she decides to leave the house and move in with her brother. Unfortunately, after a conversation with her bhabi, it becomes evident she’s not welcome. Kinza insists she can’t live with a cheating husband, but her maternal family not only refuses to believe the claim, but also urgeherto save her marriage.